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[Debate/Åä·Ð] (HM-030) Friend wants to stop being co-worker£§s taxi driver
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[Problem]

Àú´Â Á÷Àå¿¡¼­ ¾î·Á¿î »óȲÀ» °Þ°í ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. µ¿·á Çϳª°¡ 2³â Àü ¿îÀü¸éÇãÁõÀ» ºÐ½ÇÇØ Á¦°¡ ±×³à¿¡°Ô ±³ÅëÆíÀǸ¦ Á¦°øÇϱ⠽ÃÀÛÇß´ä´Ï´Ù. óÀ½¿¡´Â °¡²û ÀϾ´Â ÀÏÀ̾úÀ¸³ª ÀÌÁ¦´Â °ÅÀÇ ¸ÅÀÏ ÀϾ´Â ÀÏÀÌ µÇ¾ú½À´Ï´Ù. ÀÌ »óȲÀ¸·Î ¸»¹Ì¾Ï¾Æ Àú¿Í Á¦ ½Ã°£»ó Å« ÇÇÇظ¦ ÀÔ°í Àֱ⠶§¹®¿¡ Àú´Â ¿©±â¼­ ºüÁ® ³ª¿À°íÀÚ Çϳª ±× ¹æ¹ýÀ» ¸ð¸£°Ú½À´Ï´Ù. 
I have a difficult situation at work. A co-worker lost her driver's license two years ago, and I began providing her transportation. In the beginning it was occasional, but now it's almost daily. I don't know how to get out of this situation because it is taking a toll on me and my time.

±×³à´Â ÈÖ¹ßÀ¯ °ªÀ» ºÎ´ãÇØ ¾à°£ º¸»óÀ» ÇØÁÖÁö¸¸, Àú´Â Á÷¾÷ÀÌ µÎ °³Àε¥´Ù °¡Á·¿¡ ´ëÇÑ Àǹ«°¡ È޽Ľð£À» Á¦ÇÑÇÏ´Â ¿äÀÎÀÌ µË´Ï´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ÀÌ Åýà ±â»ç ¼­ºñ½º¸¦ Áö¼ÓÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø¾î¿ä. ÀúÈñ´Â ³· Á÷Àå¿¡¼­ ³ª¶õÈ÷ ±Ù¹«ÇÏ°í ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. Àú´Â ±×³à¿Í ±×³à¿ÍÀÇ ¿ìÁ¤¿¡ ¸¶À½À» ¾²Áö¸¸ ´õ ÀÌ»ó ±×³àÀÇ °íÃÊ°¡ ÀúÀÇ °íÃÊ°¡ µÇµµ·Ï °è¼ÓÇؼ­ ¿ë³³ÇÒ ¼ö´Â ¾ø¾î¿ä. ¾Öºñ ¼±»ý´Ô, ¾î¶»°Ô ±×³à¿¡°Ô ÀÌ ¼Ò½ÄÀ» ÀüÇØ¾ß ÇÒÁö Á¶¾ðÇØ Áֽñ⠹ٶø´Ï´Ù. - Åýà ¼­ºñ½º°¡ ¾Æ´Ñ µ¶ÀÚ
She has somewhat compensated me for gas, but I have two jobs and family obligations that limit my time off, and I just can't continue this taxi service. We work side-by-side at my day job. I care about her and our friendship, but can no longer continue allowing her hardship to be my hardship. Abby, please advise how to break the news to her. - NOT A TAXI SERVICE

[Advice]

Åýà ¼­ºñ½º°¡ ¾Æ´Ñ µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: Á¦°Ô ¼³¸íÇÑ ±×´ë·Î µ¿·á¿¡°Ô ¼³¸íÇϼ¼¿ä ¦¡ µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ ´Ù¸¥ Àǹ«µéÀ» °í·ÁÇÒ ¶§ ÀÌ ÀÏÀÌ µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­ °¨´çÇÏ½Ç ¼ö ÀÖ´Â °Íº¸´Ù ½Ã°£¼Ò¸ð¿Í ½ºÆ®·¹½º°¡ ´õ ¸¹¾ÆÁ³´Ù°í ¸»ÀÌ¿¡¿ä. ¸¶¾à Ä¡·áÇÏµí °©Àڱ⠰ü°è¸¦ ´ÜÀýÇÏ´Â ´ë½Å¿¡, ´Ù¸¥ ±³Åë¼ö´ÜÀ» ¸¶·ÃÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖµµ·Ï ±×³à¿¡°Ô »çÀü ÅëÁö ¦¡ ¿¹¸¦ µé¸é ÀÏ ÁÖÀÏ ¦¡ Çϼ¼¿ä. ±×·¸°Ô ÇϽô µ¥ »ç°ú¸¦ ÇϽðųª ÁËÃ¥°¨À» ´À³¢Áö ¸¶¼¼¿ä. µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­´Â ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ÇßÀ¸¸®¶ó°í »ý°¢µÇ´Â °Íº¸´Ù ÈξÀ ³Ê±×·¯¿ì½Ã°í Áö¿øÀ» ¾Æ³¢Áö ¾ÊÀ¸¼Ì¾î¿ä.
DEAR NOT: Explain it to your co-worker just as you have explained it to me ¦¡ that it has become more time-consuming and stressful than you can handle, given your other obligations. Rather than cut her off cold turkey, give her some notice ¦¡ say a week ¦¡ to arrange for other transportation. Do not apologize or feel guilty about doing so. You have been more generous and supportive than many people would have.

Ãß½Å: µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­´Â ±×³à°¡ ¿Ö ¿îÀü Ư±ÇÀ» »ó½ÇÇß´ÂÁö ¾ð±ÞÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ¸¼Ì´Âµ¥, ¸¸ÀÏ ±×³à°¡ ¿îÀü¸éÇã ½ÃÇè¿¡ ÀçÀÀ½ÃÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ ¾ÆÁ÷µµ °¡´ÉÇÏ´Ù¸é, Àç ÀÀ½ÃÇ϶ó°í Á¦¾ÈÇÏ¼Å¾ß ÇÕ´Ï´Ù.
P.S. You didn't mention why she lost her driving privileges, but if it's still possible for her to reapply for a driver's license, you should suggest it.


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* take a (its) toll (on) ~¿¡ Å« ÇÇÇØ[Ÿ°Ý]¸¦ ÁÖ´Ù

(=to have a very bad effect on something or someone over a long period of time)

e.g.) The tornado takes a toll on the village. ȸ¿À¸®¹Ù¶÷Àº ±× ¸¶À»¿¡ Å« ÇÇÇظ¦ ÁØ´Ù.


* time off ÀÏÀÌ ¾ø´Â[ÇÑ°¡ÇÑ] ½Ã°£, (È°µ¿ÀÇ) ÀϽÃÀû Áß´Ü, ÈÞ½Ä[to do, for]
e.g.) You must really be looking forward to it, you haven't had any time off for at least two years.
2³â µ¿¾È ÈÞ°¡ ÇÑ ¹ø ¸ø °¬À¸´Ï ±×·¸°Ô ±â´ëÇÒ ¸¸µµ ÇÏÁö¿ä.

* break the news to  ~¿¡°Ô (³ª»Û) ¼Ò½ÄÀ» ÀüÇÏ´Ù
e.g.) The doctor had to break the news to Jane about her husband's cancer.
±× ÀÇ»ç´Â Á¦Àο¡°Ô ±×³à ³²ÆíÀÇ ¾Ï¿¡ ´ëÇØ ¾ê±â¸¦ ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ¸¸é ¾È µÇ¾ú´Ù.

* cut (somebody) off ¿ìÈ£ÀûÀÎ °ü°è¸¦ ²÷´Ù (=to stop having a friendly relationship with someone)
e.g.) Don¡¯t let your son¡¯s divorce cut you off from your grandchildren.
¾ÆµéÀÇ ÀÌÈ¥ÀÌ ´ç½Å°ú ¼ÕÁÖµé°úÀÇ °ü°è¸¦ ´ÜÀý½ÃÅ°Áö ¾Êµµ·Ï Ç϶ó.

* cold turkey (¸¶¾à Áßµ¶ÀÚÀÇ) °©ÀÛ½º·± ¾à¹° Áß´Ü¿¡ ÀÇÇÑ ½ÅüÀû ºÒÄè°¨; ±×·¯ÇÑ Áõ¼¼¸¦ °Þ°Ô ÇÏ´Â ¸¶¾à Ä¡·á¹ý
e.g.) I can't go cold turkey. °©Àڱ⠲÷À» ¼ö´Â ¾ø¾î.