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[Debate/Åä·Ð] (HM-029) Helicopter mom can£§t stop keeping tabs on teenager
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[Problem]

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I'm having a hard time letting my almost 17-year-old daughter out of my sight. When she walks home from school, I call to make sure she's OK, then call her again minutes later when I estimate she's home. The whole time I worry.

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I check on her wherever she is, whomever she is with, and if she doesn't answer a call or text, I panic. I have on a few occasions raced home from work in the middle of the day only to find her napping, and I'm upset to the point that I'll start crying. I realize this isn't healthy for either of us.

¼ö³â Àü¿¡ ÀúÈñ ¸¶À»¿¡¼­ Á¦ µþ°ú °°Àº ³ªÀÌÀÇ ¾î¸° ¼Ò³à°¡ Áý¿¡¼­ ºÙÀâÇô »ìÇØµÈ ÀûÀÌ ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. Àú´Â ÀÌ »ç°ÇÀÌ Á¦°¡ ±×ó·³ ºñÀ̼ºÀûÀ¸·Î ÇൿÇÏ´Â ÀÌÀ¯·Î ÀϺΠÀÛ¿ëÇÏÁö ¾Ê¾ÒÀ»±î ÇÏ´Â »ý°¢ÀÌ µé¾î¿ä. ¿Ã ¿©¸§¿¡ µþ ¾ÖÀÇ ÀϺΠģ±¸µéÀÌ ¿îÀüÀ» ÇÒ ÅÍÀε¥, Àú´Â Çغ¯À̳ª (ÇÑ °÷¿¡ ¼¼ °¡Áö ¾Ç¸ùÀÌÁÒ!) ±× ¹Û¿¡ ¾îµð·Îµç ¿©ÇàÀ» °¥ °ÍÀ̶ó´Â »ó»ó¸¸ ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖÀ» »Ó¿¡¿ä. ¾î¶»°Ô ´ëóÇØ¾ß ÇÒÁö °í°ßÀ» ºÎŹµå¸³´Ï´Ù. - Ç÷θ®´Ù¿¡¼­ 10´ë¸¦ µÐ Á¦ Á¤½ÅÀÌ ¾Æ´Ñ ¾ö¸¶
Years ago, a little girl in our town, the same age as my daughter, was taken from her home and murdered. I think that plays a part in why I act so irrational. Some of her friends will be driving this summer and I can only imagine there will be trips to the beach (three nightmares in one!) and whatever else. I guess I just want to know how to come to grips. - FRANTIC MOM OF A TEEN IN FLORIDA

[Advice]

Á¦ Á¤½ÅÀÌ ¾Æ´Ï½Å µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ µÎ·Á¿òÀº ½ÇÁ¦ÀÇ »ç°Ç¿¡ ¹ÙÅÁÀ» µÎ°í ÀÖÁö¸¸, µû´ÔÀº ´õ ÀÌ»ó ¾î¸° ¼Ò³à°¡ ¾Æ´Ï¿¡¿ä. µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­´Â µû´ÔÀ» ¿µ±¸È÷ º¸È£ÇÏ½Ç ¼ö ¾øÀ¸¸ç, µû´ÔÀº 10´ë·Î¼­ ¾î´À Á¤µµ µ¶¸³½ÉÀ» È®¸³ÇÒ ÇÊ¿ä°¡ ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ µÎ·Á¿òÀº Áö³ªÄ¡½Ã±â ¶§¹®¿¡ ÀÌ ¹®Á¦¿¡ °üÇØ°øÀÎµÈ Á¤½Å°Ç°­ »ó´ã»ç¿Í À̾߱⸦ ³ª´©½Ã¸é µ¶ÀÚ´Ô°ú µû´Ô ¸ðµÎ¿¡°Ô À¯ÀÍÇÒ °ÍÀÔ´Ï´Ù.   
DEAR FRANTIC: While your fears are based on a real incident, your daughter is no longer a little girl. You can't protect her forever, and as a teenager, she needs to establish some independence. You would be doing both of you a favor to talk to a licensed mental health counselor now about this, because your fears are excessive.

[¾îÈÖ & Ç¥Çö]

* helicopter mom Ç︮ÄßÅÍ ¸¾, ¾ÆÀ̵éÀÌ ¼ºÀåÇØ ´ëÇп¡ µé¾î°¡°Å³ª »çȸ»ýÈ°À» ÇÏ°Ô µÇ¾îµµ Ç︮ÄßÅÍó·³ ¾ÆÀÌ ÁÖº¯À» ¸Éµ¹¸é¼­ ¿Â°® ÀÏ¿¡ ´Ù Âü°ßÇÏ´Â ¾ö¸¶ (= ¡±Helicopter mom¡± is a term often used by the media to describe a mother who is so interested in her child¡¯s life that she intervenes in their affairs)

* keep (close) tabs on somebody/something ~À» ¿¹ÀÇ ÁÖ½ÃÇÏ´Ù, °è»êÇÏ´Ù, È®ÀÎÇÏ´Ù, °¨½ÃÇÏ´Ù
(= to watch someone or something carefully to check what they are doing) 
e.g.) It¡¯s not always possible to keep tabs on everyone's movements.
¸ðµç »ç¶÷µéÀÇ ¿òÁ÷ÀÓÀ» °è¼Ó ¿¹ÀÇ ÁÖ½ÃÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ Ç×»ó °¡´ÉÇÏÁö´Â ¾Ê´Ù.

* have a hard time Èûµç ½Ã°£À» º¸³»´Ù, Èûµé¾î ÇÏ´Ù
e.g.) Many freshmen have a hard time navigating around campus. ¸¹Àº ½ÅÀÔ»ýµéÀÌ Ä·ÆÛ½ºÀÇ ±æÀ» ã´Â °ÍÀ» Èûµé¾î ÇÑ´Ù.
 
* panic °Ì¿¡ Áú·Á ¾î¿ ÁÙ ¸ð¸£´Ù[¸ð¸£°Ô ÇÏ´Ù], °øȲ »óÅ¿¡ ºüÁö´Ù[ºüÁö°Ô ÇÏ´Ù]
(=If you panic or if someone panics you, you suddenly feel anxious or afraid, and act quickly and without thinking carefully).
e.g.) I panicked when I saw smoke coming out of the engine. ³ª´Â ¿£Áø¿¡¼­ ¿¬±â°¡ ³ª´Â °ÍÀ» º¸°í °Ì¿¡ Áú·Á ¾î¿ ÁÙÀ» ¸ô¶ú´Ù.

* come to grips (with something) ~¿Í ¾¾¸§ÇÏ´Ù, ÇØ°áÇÏ·Á°í ³ë·ÂÇÏ´Ù
(= to begin to understand or to deal properly with a person, problem, subject, etc.)
e.g.) The administration's first task is to come to grips with the economy. Á¤ºÎÀÇ Ã¹ °úÁ¦´Â °æÁ¦ ¹®Á¦¸¦ º»°ÝÀûÀ¸·Î ó¸®ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. 

* frantic (µÎ·Á¿ò, °ÆÁ¤À¸·Î) Á¦Á¤½ÅÀÌ ¾Æ´Ñ, ~·Î ±¤ºÐÇÏ´Â
(= extremely worried and frightened about a situation, so that you cannot control your feelings)  
e.g.) Let's go back. Your parents must be getting frantic by now. µ¹¾Æ°¡ÀÚ. Áö±ÝÂë ³Ê³× ºÎ¸ð´ÔÀº ¹ÝÂë È¥ÀÌ ³ª°¡¼ÌÀ» °Å¾ß.